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Im 41 with 3 upper teens, 16 years down and 4 alone… Definitely not past this, i got no closure… I live alone eat alone, im content…my son’s are the only reasons for living
Hi there,
That alot of weight you’re dealing with and much you care about your sons…
It not easy dealing with loneliness so i know how you feel. You’re not alone throughout it either it something alot have dealt with and hopefully you can work through you don’t deserve to be alone and i bet your sons will agree with me. But you should find something to do with your sons or even go out and enjoy yourself at times. Take it easy on yourself you definitely going through alot and hope this encouragement helps you feel better about this.
Take Care & Hold Fast.
Hey Friend,
Thanks so much for commenting and welcome to heartsupport!
I feel like I have dealt with loneliness my whole life, so I can completely understand and empathize with what you feel. It’s so difficult feeling like our world keeps getting smaller. One thing that has helped me though is helping others. Through that I have found many more people that remind me everyday through their actions that I am not alone. It took quite a long time for me to work through my own hangups and feelings around this but once I started rounding the corner so to speak I felt like my world was getting bigger and fuller. The biggest things we can do for ourselves is seek help and admit when we need it. Continue doing what you do for your son’s - it would seem you are a pillar for their lives. And don’t hesitate to reach out! We all believe in you!!
Hello and thanks for your post. I am a bit older than you and completely understand having no closure. That is something that has followed me my entire life. Once my girls moved out, it seemed like the house was empty. It was strange because for over 20 years it was all about the family but once they were gone, my wife and I were alone and we were not used to it.
It did take some time to find hobbies and things to fill up our days but we did. Thankfully we don’t live to far away from the girls so we do get to see them fairly often, which is really nice. We have also been able to help them through some ups and down as they enter into adult life.
I hope you get the closure you need and are able to find activities that entertain and challenge you. It seems your boys mean a lot to you which is a blessing and a curse. I have met many parents who can’t wait until their kids are out of the house, which always bothered me. They need to enjoy them while they are together, as a family.