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It’s been 10 years since my son passed… I’m still in shambles. I’m trying, I’m just tired.
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I’m very sorry to hear about your son’s passing. I do not have children so I can’t imagine the pain you’ve felt the last ten years. I’m sure it has taken lots of time to deal with and process some of the pain you’ve felt for so long. Pain and grief can leave us feeling totally exhausted and used up. And there will always be moments of reflection and pain, but in time scars can heal. The scars will always be there, but they can also heal. It’s important to remember the joy and the pain of the past because they both teach us how to create a better future.
When you’re feeling tired and weighed down by grief, always take time to process it. And when the time is right, remember to get back up and keep moving forward. The bad times can be just as important to our lives as the good times as long as we allow them to help us to keep moving forward. Remember that you are not alone, that you are loved, and that there is a God who loves you and whose Son also died. He knows your grief, and He cares. Hang in there, I’m praying for you.
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Hi Friend,
Thank you for sharing with us. I am so sorry for your loss. No parent should have to experience the loss/death of a child. It is such a pain and overwhelming grief to have to bear. How you feel is valid. I understand being in shambles. I understand being tired of trying. I understand how this loss must have ripped you up, torn you apart and shattered your heart inside. The love a parent has for their child is so strong, so deep - the way they would do anything for their child, move mountains for their child and the way it must be hard to not self-blame, to think about what you could have done differently (even if you did nothing humanly possible). The sorrow that takes over you.
Recovering from the loss of a child is not easy by any means. And friend, it takes you as long as it takes you. There is no clock, there is no rush, you take the time that you need, you move at the pace that you can, and you keep trying. I commend you for trying, and for continuing to try year after year, despite getting tired and feeling tired, despite the doubt and the questions wondering if you will ever be able to put the pieces back together again, to ever feel any small assemblance of joy or peace. To be okay again, to truly live again. Take the time that you need.
I’m not sure of your beliefs, but I believe that he sees, understands, and appreciates your efforts. That he wants to see you continue to try. And I hope that one day you will get to a place of healing, that you will be able to carry your son in your heart and begin to experience what is left of your life with him in your heart. That in some way, he can experience more of life with you and through you. That thought could bring some solace, that you can, in a way, make more memories with him and for him that you can hold on to and keep him alive in your heart. 