Look how painful this video is the video images on

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Look how painful this video is the video images on the TV the spying the sabotage. It is like real life right now with social media and life as whole. at 90 my Grandmother was telling me “Baby this world is not for me…I do not belong here anymore. and there is no where for me to go.” And I felt she was being dramatic? AND 20 years LATER at 58 I feel like I do not belong in this world anymore. I have lost all my friends and have lost most of my family and Mom is about to go…Things have gone so fast and so quick I never thought I would be here like this.

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Hi, thank you for sharing! I give my condolences to your grandmother. During this time, it can feel really lonely and I know that feeling all too well and I can’t imagine what you’re going through. What worked for me was to seek a therapist because I was at my breaking point but after seeing her, I realized that I need to start that first step of putting myself out there and knowing that change can be a good thing. Therapists can be a great resource in helping with these situations and can definitely be a good start. There is a lot of positive through change and I know you can find it. Don’t give up, life is not easy but you got this!

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Hi, It must be horrible to feel like you do not belong in this world and I can relate to that feeling, the speed the world is moving, and the changes around us in the world as well as the ones that directly affect us can be immense. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot right now, loss, change, and loneliness and that can be difficult for all of us.
The fact that you have spoken about here is a huge step. I would suggest, that if you can and are willing to that speaking to a therapist face to face would be very beneficial. I would also like you to think about maybe finding a support group in your area (for loss etc) or even if somewhere near you does a coffee morning. Go and drink coffee, talk to people or just sit there and listen at the start (no pressure to join in).
One final thing I would like you to remember is that you do belong on this world!

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It’s brutal to feel alone in the world. Like you were once a grove. You had a pack, a community, a family. And one by one, the trees wilted and died, and you’re the only one left, and you wonder - can I die now too? I miss my friends, and I hate living in the grief, in the loneliness.

It can be hard some days to find the point in putting all that weight once again on your shoulders, and standing up, and going off to face your day. It’s a monotonous drudgery. And it erodes you over time. There’s only so much loneliness a soul can take.

I have been in a period of loneliness for quite some time too. It is a terrible feeling. Sometimes it’s hard to demarcate the days. You go so long without punctuating social contact, it just feels like life is only long run-on sentence. You don’t know when a thought or a day starts and stops, and you just kind of keep going because of momentum, I guess, but you wonder, if I slowed down, would I ever be able to start back up? Would anyone even care?

And that’s when our thoughts can get dangerous.

But one of the things I’ve learned about suicide in my own life is that it’s a fantasy of a life without issue. It’s dreaming about relief. A lot of times it comes up for me wishing I could be sick so life wouldn’t be so hard. I get permission just to lay in bed and do nothing. Instead I can feel trapped to the daily grind of needing to produce produce produce.

But I’ve learned that hope is always closer than we think. I felt prompted to call a friend when I was on a run the other day. We talked for five minutes. And I felt better. There was something about relationships that can be so hard to pick up the phone, but when we do, it can be so instantly rewarding. Connection can be easy to create. It’s choosing to create it that is hard (For me). It’s not like I’m “cured” because I talked on the phone for 5 minutes. The point is that I’m more HOPEFUL. And that’s really important. Because hope does a hell of a good job obliterating suicidality.

Anyways, I appreciate you posting here. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your story so we could connect together through music about the matters of our heart.

-nate, heartsupport staff