Hai, so for a while I’ve been working through a workbook that one of my therapists had given This Workbook is about Mindful Self-Compassion and the chapter I’m on is about “Backdraft” which is a feeling I think many of us can recognise. The feeling of “but I’m doing the things I’m supposed to, why am I not feeling better rn”.
One of the things that they are stating is that we are probably already taking good care of ourselves (otherwise we wouldn’t have come this far), but maybe we can add some things to it, to make us feel more grounded and supported, and then an exercise is given. The exercise is to write the things down that you already do to be compassionate to yourself, and what you can add to it. They give 5 different categories you can be compassionate in: Physically (to soften the body), Mentally (to reduce agitation), Emotionally (to soothe and comfort yourself), Relationally (to connect with others), and Spiritually (to commit to your values).
For myself, I have written down what I already do for all of these, but it’s harder to find out what I want to add to them because I can’t think of them. So far, these are the things I’ve written down for the different categories. These are things that I do when I’m starting to get anxious or already am anxious, but not in immediate danger.
Physically
Taking a shower, going on walks, drinking a cup of tea, lay in bed and hug a pillow. I also have started to exercise, but that is not enough of a habit yet to add to this category. Do want to try out yoga though.
Mentally
Watch a movie while I’m crocheting, drawing with music on. (usually just listening to music doesn’t work for me, I have to do something at the same time or be able to focus on something)
Emotionally
Talking with others, whether that is here or in dms or irl. I want to try journalling though.
Relationally
Sharing videos with friends, sending people birthday messages when it’s their birthday, make gifts/drawings for people I care about.
Spiritually
Walking in nature, telling people that they matter and that they are loved.
I’m not extremely religious, so God doesn’t have a huge part in my life. Praying also doesn’t help for me, I have tried. So when it comes to literal spirituality, that’s not helpful for me.
These are the things that I already do, and I also have written down some things that I want to try. But especially when it comes the last 3 categories (Emotionally, Relationally, and Spiritually), I could use some suggestions of things I can add or at least try out.
Thank you for reading.