I’m still struggle with my ex friend leaving again, everyday I definitely struggle with intense sadness that leads to anger. I still fuck up thoughts about her and some shit come out.(But in paper journals, I try use that for rage than doing on here.)
However, I’m start woundering if looking at situation the wrong way. So this new DBT skill I’m been learning is the respect skill. The R for respect is reframe. To see in a different light. Because, letting my emotion tell that my friend use me and she doesn’t care. Instead thinking this through tonight as I was driving.
So the last time I saw in person, we supposed to talk but she had to work. So I did not respond well and got irritated. But before I left, she gave me a hug. Saying I know it far drive for you to here. Unfortunately text her about feeling, she said need time and she would talk about. It at least 4 mouths, last message she sent me, was still need time to figure stuff out.
I know need to move on, I really been trying let my anger take and give her space. But was not perfect at it. Because, people some people saying that she use me and I did not get anything sex. So it kinda stop me from healing and going forward.
In addition, I feel was talk how that no matter what, she does see the good in me. Like she courge me not to stop skateboarding, that was a good skater and that need believe in himself more. That should not care what other people think of me. That felt safe being atound and that should talk to girls more. Also hope things get better me and always take care of myself.
Otherwise, she did talk about if her boyfriend leave, she said she would be okay , that she would be sad, but she see the good in herself and being own person. To me that stood out, I felt telling me that I am enough, even without her. She just point the good stuff that was always there and that I am enough for me.
I know probably vaildation how I feel, which my therapist told me not to do. But I feel made our friendship worth it. Even mostly leave me, and not my lover. It lesson that teacher from middle school that said no girl would like me was wrong. At end day, my friend did show me the good side. I’m greatful for her and I hope that she find happiness.