I think you’re focusing on the wrong issue here. The real problem is not that your drug dealer threatened you. It’s not even that your girlfriend told the drug dealer what happened during your fight…
The real issue is how you treated your girlfriend.
If you had treated your girlfriend with love, she wouldn’t have any dirty laundry to air out…and if the dirty laundry wasn’t there, your dealer wouldn’t have any problem with you…
Telling your girlfriend that your dealer threatened you is just a way for you to try to get between her and him and win her back by slandering someone else…
The truth is, man, your girlfriend is getting too comfortable with being mistreated by YOU!
–> let me be quick to say…I don’t feel any judgment towards you. I say things I regret too. You are human, man. So am I. We all mess up. I don’t care that you mess up, and I have compassion for you because I mess up too…what I DO care about is you focusing your energy on improving your life and not avoiding your problems…by focusing SO MUCH on whether or not to rat out your drug dealer, you’re totally focusing on the wrong thing here, bro…there’s a greater lesson, a greater opportunity for you here…you can receive that as a wake up call – you’ve got some issues you need to deal with! You’ve got some anger you need to dig into and figure out why you’re so explosive, why you can’t control your words, where this is all coming from…you’ve got some healing to do!! And if you continue to take the easy way out by focusing on other people’s problems, you’re never going to get better, and one day your girlfriend will leave you or your dealer will slit your throat – either literally or metaphorically.
Your heart matters, dude. Your heart MATTERS. And you’ve been ignoring it for so long!! But you don’t have to. Your heart deserves your compassion, your attention, your effort…YOU deserve your effort. The pain you’ve experienced in your past matters, and it was real, and it had a real impact on you, and you need to finally face it and address it and work through it and find healing…because when you do, you’re going to become the type of man that you hoped you’d grow up to be – and the type of man that your girlfriend will admire – and the type of man that others will respect. You are not beyond hope, man.
So to answer your question – should you tell her that your dealer threatened to slit your throat?
You should become the type of man that doesn’t get threatened to have his throat slit by his dealer.
You should become the type of man that doesn’t abuse your girlfriend.
You are not crazy for struggling or for fighting, but you are also not free from guilt from the things you did.
And you are not free from the responsibility of the consequences…or from the responsibility of improving your life.
I’d recommend you exploring counseling and digging into WHY you get so angry. Discover the real wounds and lies that you’ve endured and believe…the real pain that gets triggered even today…and start to heal from those things. You can become the type of man that doesn’t lash out at your girlfriend. You can become the type of man that has no reason to have his life threatened.
And that is the call on our life…the path I challenge you to take.