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My god father passed away with the first round of COIVD, my dad passed 1 year later, my mom got sent to a nursing home and then my 14year old dog also passed…It is extremely hard to relate to anyone on an emotional level at the moment,…but we make due…This song hits hard… That is really all I have to say…

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I am so sorry to hear of all of the loss you’ve been through in such a short period of time. Receiving blow after blow must be so devastating- like you are a boxer fighting for your life in the ring, but every time you muster the strength to get back up you are knocked back into the ground. With the losses you face, each time you try to get back up you are left with one less person to be there for you, to care for you, to grieve with you, and to be your support. I am so sorry that you’ve had to fight your way through loss after loss, and I can only imagine the emotional toll that has taken.

It can feel so isolating when we are left to suffer and grieve. You are just trying to face each day and get yourself through each moment that you can’t even begin to think about how to relate to anyone else. Your own emotions require so much attention that you don’t even know how to express them- you’re just left unpacking the baggage you’ve been handed. I know that must feel so lonely, but you are taking the right steps right here, in your post. It takes so much strength and courage to open your heart and talk about your struggles, but you are already doing that! We were not created to be isolated in our fears and anxieties- we were created to be social humans who have each other as a support network, and you’ve come to the best place you possibly could have for that.

Loss is such a massive and multi-faceted topic to grapple with, but through experiencing it we learn so much. Though you may not have the same support system you once had, you are still the strong, courageous, and wonderful human being you have always been. You will always have the memories of your loved ones and their impact will never be forgotten. This intense sorrow will slowly fade with time and the good memories of those you loved will always hold true. I’m so glad you’ve been able to lean into music during your hardest times and find tracks that speak to you when you don’t feel able to speak for yourself. Continue to lean into the transformative power of music, and continue to open up just like you’ve done here. Thank you for taking your time to talk about your struggles- we at HeartSupport will always be here to talk more when you need it. You are so loved and I know these feelings will eventually mellow. Holdfast.

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Hi friend, just reading your story was devastating–I can’t imagine being on the receiving end of so much heart and heartache. I’m so glad that you shared what you could.
I think that our culture is so fast-paced and overly stimulated, and we can be terrible at truly, deeply experiencing and sorting through our emotions. The passing of loved ones can be such a difficult thing to process, and perhaps there might be a temptation to avoid the process of grieving and sorting through emotions altogether by submersing yourself in other pleasures or entertainment or stimulants. I just want to encourage you that one of the best things you can do for your flourishing is take some time to intentionally grieve and reflect on the legacy of your loved ones.
I’m hoping and praying with you for the emotional, mental, and physical strength to persevere through this season. At times I personally feel like a bother when I rely on other people for emotional support through difficult times, but there is so much power found when others come along side and shoulder our burdens with us. In difficult circumstances look for those you know you can trust to be be vulnerable with and confide in. Not down playing your experience by ANY means; coping with death is an experience that everyone has had to or will have to persevere through at one time or another, and perhaps you can take comfort in others being able to sympathize. I’m rooting for you–you’ve got this friend!

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Hey there friend,
I can’t even begin to imagine how hard it has been to go through such a loss, especially in such a short amount of time.

I completely understand how isolated you feel in relating to anyone as a result all you’ve been through. With a loss so great and so personal, I can’t imagine how hard it is to convey how much of a toll it’s taken on you to others.

But I promise you, this is not the end. I know from personal experience that with such a loss, one can lose themselves entirely in dwelling in despair over those who are no longer with us. I also know from personal experience that this can lead down a very dark and isolating path. While it is important to grieve, it is also just as important to not allow ourselves to get lost in despair.

Now, l have never experienced a loss as great as yours, but if I was to give a suggestion that may help; whenever I catch myself getting lost in despair, I always try and reframe my mindset. Instead of dwelling on a negative situation I can’t change, I always try to remember what’s been going right or what I do have, and that realization is usually my first step in climbing out of despair.

I’m very thankful for your posting here and reaching out. I will be keeping you in my prayers friend, wishing you all the best!!!

Thanks everyone…