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Nothing. I want to do nothing. Until I’m doing it. I think my struggle is not feeling like the reward is worth the work. The juice isn’t worth the squeeze.
Oh yeah, inertia and motivation are hard obstacles to overcome. It takes more effort to get something started than to keep it going once you do start. It’s like how bad do I really want this or to do this? Sometimes the it really does feel like the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. It’s about finding our why in something. Thank you for sharing. I felt that.
@HeartSupport it’s more like setting a pace that you can’t maintain. I’m a hell of a starter, an even better quitter. After some time “putting in the hard work” but not getting the result that flights of fancy and romantic daydreams hype you up for.
It’s so hard to feel unmotivated. To feel like you’re stuck in not doing, and the only way to get out of the stuckness is to do which you’re unmotivated to do. A vicious cycle. I’ve found that one of the most frustrating parts of motivation is that it takes a while of doing before you seen the real juice of your efforts. It can be so difficult to keep doing something, while you’re unmotivated AND you’re not seeing the reward of it. Sending you love friend. Take it one step at a time.
Thank you for opening up about this. Gosh, this is such a rough experience. It’s like there are so many things out there to do, even things that you want to do, but the process to get there is just not appealing enough. You have this vision of what you expect when you initiate an action, or dive into a project, but as you go you realize that the process is noot as interesting as you thought. The more you dive into it, the more it gets boring, tasteless, uninteresting. So why pursuing something that doesn’t FEEL worth it? It just doesn’t seem worth it to pursue something that doesn’t produce the results you expected. The way you describe this process really makes sense.
I personally wholeheartedly relate to what you’ve shared. The excitement that comes with thinking of the big picture is really satisfying, rewarding. You have this vision in mind and you feel hyped up to walk towards this result, to take action. But once you’re actually doing the hard ork, you realize that it may take a lot of unexpected steps and detours to actually get to the result expected. And it’s sooo hard to stay consistent at something when it isn’t satisfying. It’s difficult to translate dreams into something practical without it feeling like a daunting task, maybe even one that is completely impossible to overcome.
Maybe this isn’t about the difficulty of the process, but trying to reframe our expectations instead as we go. The big picture is always exciting, but it can be very discouraging to attain it, especially if it’s about long-term projects or learning processes. If I want to be an artist who is comfortable in a specific drawing style, I’ll need to learn techniques and practice, practice, practice a lot. But each time I’ll draw something that doesn’t match with my expectations, I’ll feel disappointed and discouraged – which is of course another way to say that I’d be sabotaging myself.
Instead, it is interesting to try to define smaller goals within your big goals. Still objectives that are exciting to you and would mark specific milestones. When you break down things into steps that are smaller AND still make sense to you, it can help to maintain a sense of momentum. As well as making sure that you celebrate and reward yourself along the way. If you reach this first milestone, you’d do this or that to celebrate your progress and take some time to FEEL this growth. Silly example, but whenenevr I go to my therapist, I treat myself afterwards by going to a local coffee shop and anjoy some me time there, reading or writing. There are many days when I didn’t want to go see them and had to force myself, and it was not enjoyable. But having consistency in rewarding myself afterwards helped to keep finding purpose in why I have these appointments
This was a long reply, but all of this t osay: a vision gives you a direction, then you can break it down into realistic steps and milestones (or chapters, seasons, however you’d like to call it) that are meaningful to YOU personally. It takes time to build this kind of system forourselves, but it can really be helpful in the long run. Overall, gamifying your own journey can add a sense of excitment and interest throughout the different steps you’d take. This is definitely something that can be learned and practice over time. I wish you all the best in your future projects. YOU GOT THIS.