Idk how to start but my partner and I have been kind of going though the roommate stage. It’s been over two years since I have had a serious convo about our relationship and what is wrong and what we can do to fix the issues we have had. I have grown to not have theses conversations w my partner due to the fact that I don’t know how to express myself correctly (usually i cry or I starts just blaming) and also how my partner replies (says “idk what to say”/ or silence ) or his infamous line ( I just can’t be like that anymore )Now I know that sound fd up but I am one to not give up easily so maybe I can just move on but I am willing to try one more time . I miss being treated like a girlfriend, I miss being loved . The only time (tmi) I do feel some sort of affection is when we have sex but that usually is when we’re half asleep and that’s it. No passion really just reach climax for both and cuddle after. I don’t try either to be more romantic or passionate due to the fear of being rejected but I am willing to try with him. I just would like some advice on how to talk to him but not seem nagging or insecure . I want him to see that we’re in this together not that I am attacking him w issues . Any advice is welcomed please 
Hi there!
Thanks for reaching out to Heart Support.
It’s tough what you’re going through. Relationships go through different phases… & what you’re experiencing is something many couples face. I admire that you realize the need for open communication & that you’re willing to step forward despite the challenges you both are facing.
Could your partner be experiencing depression & anxieties of his own? You never know what demons he may be facing. Invite him to share his perspective when the time is right.
Have you tried couples therapy before? It helps having someone guide these heavy conversations.
Its hard. But you’ve got this. It’s clear you care deeply. & the foundation is still strong.
Take care of yourself.<3
It’s wonderful that you wish to rekindle the passion in your relationship. It really does take effort to keep things fresh and lively. In fact, based on talking to a lot of married couples and reading on the subject, rekindling is possible, but at the same time, it’s rare that it becomes like that of a brand new relationship. The consensus also seems to be that new relationship passion isn’t sustainable for the long term because people really do need to take care of life’s business, including going to work, keeping house, etc. In short, the honeymoon phase is indeed a phase, and passion does seem to moderate over time.
In many successful relationships, such moderation isn’t viewed as a negative thing. Instead, couples believe it facilitates a deeper level of emotional intimacy, trust and comfort with each other. The challenge is to enjoy the evolving growth and maturing of the relationship and also to keep passion nurtured.
My own approach is to vary routines, go on outings, avoid repeating communication patterns that aren’t helpful, find things to laugh about, work on household projects, express heartfelt appreciation for each other on a daily basis, complement each other, do chores without being asked, and very importantly, listen to each other with 100% focus. That last thing may be the most important. It’s common for people to be thinking about how they will reply as the other person is talking rather than fully listening with their heart engaged.
As Bombdiggity indicated, couple’s therapy might be worth considering. That you care enough to reach out for advice suggests to me that you have what it takes to nurture the relationship in the direction you wish for it.
I’m sorry to hear about that I’ve been through the same stage before but I hope you can find someone to chat with you about this matter and can offer you any kinda insight or advice you have made the right decision to help with your post I’m happy to help you by listening or even just if you need to vent or want any advice or thoughts I’m happy to help with any questions or concerns you may have and also if I am able to make it easier on you or just support you thought this then I’m happy to help and also I am complete empathetic to your situation and I think I could be beneficial for you and your stresses and everything I’m able to be proud of you for posting your situation ! It isn’t a easy thing!