Hi there @Jb123 ![:people_hugging: :people_hugging:](https://forum.heartsupport.com/images/emoji/apple/people_hugging.png?v=12)
I first of all want to commend you for having the courage to openly talk about your struggles. I think this is even more important when you do feel vulnerable and unsure about the direction of travel for the future. However, you are far from alone, and there is hope and support out there. Feeling sad, anxious and pessimistic about life, not really knowing what life is about is challenging when you are a husband, and a new father. This is a heavy burden, and there is support out there.
Although you haven’t been clinically diagnosed, it’s still important to speak to a mental health professional who can assess you properly and give you guidance to support you through. I understand if you feel apprehension towards doing so, but support can be tailored to your needs. As a new Christian myself, I know how easy it can be to disconnect from your faith. Faith is our foundation for comfort, safety and security during tough times, and when we feel a million miles away, that removes the safety we once felt. Faith purposely leaves us with doubts and questions, that’s perfectly normal. If you are unsure, talk to your spiritual leader or someone who shares your faith.
A trap that so many of us fall into is making harsh comparisons to others. Especially where career and material possessions are concerned. Success looks different for everybody, and everybody has a different way of defining it. Perhaps you need to reconsider what success looks and feels like for you? Your worth isn’t determined by others, and as a musician you hold precious gifts. Feeling stuck and in Groundhog Day is common for people in your situation. However, Rome wasn’t built in a day and change certainly doesn’t happen overnight. You have the power to choose your path, and that’s important.
Looking after yourself is so important. When we slip into depressive states it’s so easy to stop caring about ourselves, but actually, you matter, you are worthy of love, but that love must start from within. Be gentle with yourself and celebrate the wins. They are important. Put some joy into your daily activities and focus on things that make you happy.
Lastly, vulnerability is strength. So, whilst I understand the hesitation to conceal your struggles from your loved ones, it’s important to let them in. If they truly love and support you, they will appreciate you telling them.
Keep on keeping on! ![:blue_heart: :blue_heart:](https://forum.heartsupport.com/images/emoji/apple/blue_heart.png?v=12)