This is my first post here after I heard about this site recently. I’m 25 years old, and I’m currently 6’0 360lbs. I’ve been going through a rough patch. (haha, well it’s pretty much been my whole life). I’m been heavy my whole life. I’ve tried diets, and I have succeeded in the past just to gain weight back. I am now at the current heaviest weight I have ever been. It really hit me when I realized I can’t even wipe myself in the bathroom very well. It’s not ok. I know it’s not. I know that if I continue that I’ll just end up dying young.
I’ve had anxiety and depression in the past, and I currently take meds which have worked for me so far, but it seems to be creeping up on me again. I feel so worthless, so alone (having just gone back to school with most of my friends left last year).
I have always coped with my loneliness with food. It just keeps pulling me back down. I really am hoping to be able to find some new friends and maybe a girlfriend, but because of my weight, I convince myself that I’m not worth the effort. No one wants to date the “fat” guy. No one wants to be associated with me. I know this isn’t necessarily the case with everyone, but I can’t help feeling that I’m not good enough to even try. This of course, just makes it worse, and it doesn’t help that I’m shy. I don’t feel like I am worth dating anyone due to my weight. I don’t want to put other people through my issues that I have.
At this point I feel like I emotional eat to help me feel less insecure, which results in me feeling worse that I ate food instead of trying to lose weight. I don’t feel like I can even walk around anywhere comfortably because of my weight. I just feel like a fish out of water. I know confidence is half the battle, but I can’t help but feel completely worthless. I always tell myself that if I once I lose weight I can finally start doing things in my life again, like hiking, swimming, and dating. But this has been going on for 5 years now, and I’m still nowhere closer to getting to that place.
I don’t feel like people like me. I’ve always struggled talking to people and I instinctively try to not show too much interest in girls so that I don’t creep them out or make it seem like I’m not overly interested, but I think I sometimes put people off because they don’t think I’m interested. Everything I do in my life is to try and make people don’t have to think about me and try not to deal with me, but me being a big guy that’s pretty hard to do lol.
Let me just say though that I’m not struggling with suicidal thoughts, or anything like that. My depression is not at a point where I’ve had issues like that, but my boredom really onsets me just feeling like a terrible person.
I just don’t know what I should do anymore. I can’t go on like this for much longer, it just sucks. I have goals in my life but most of which I don’t feel like I can do because of my weight. Every time I try I just binge and it just gets worse. I’m just at a loss for how to go forward.