Topics that come to mind i thought id give advice to share. Everyone struggles with these and more, it can even take the lives of others. I think the best kind of therapy we need is eachother not some schlar who learned about it and really never went through hardships like we have had and are doing now.
Everytime i am in a good spot i take a look back. So much scars, so much pain, lonliness devastated my life but i told myself if i can keep pushing forward, someday things can happen. It is a very true and honest statement. I cannot tell you how often it felt to want to just end it all and give up. But often times i was curious to see what life could have been if i chose it that way so i stayed alive.
Lonliness comes from not having people around or anyone. But in my opinion through being surrounded by influnces of all types. Its better to be alone for a while until you really meet good people. Even surrounding yourself with bad influences can make you fall into depression and go onto a path of regret and wrongful choices. This goes as far as dating we as men but also women too felt that if we were with someone our problems would go away that is not the case… id rather be with someone whose loving and encouraging than just looks pretty on the outside. And could be nasty on the inside you never know unless you talk to that person.
I really got blessed with someone who is the most kindest person and loves so many people and encourages me to seek the best in life. And im not even good looking im being honest. We built a strong connection, had so many similarities and it was easy to talk to them. It was easy to tear down walls i built up to ket them in. Ive even vowed to let novody in before. Meeting new friends, new people in general and ended up finding them along the path i took. We cannot do life alone on our own. Im so thankful i stayed alive i would have missed so many things that are truly worth living for.
You know how you came to the senses that youre not good enough? Either people or your standards and expectations are set too high. Gotta lower them. Dont make things impossible.
And a tip for maybe dating that was an eye opener. Dont look online for help or ask around. Keep things naturally and be you. Dont put on something that you aren’t. When you become comfortable you wont even realize youre being yourself. If you make her laugh or get her to smile you already starting off good. Dont jump to conclusions, Take it slow, let it come naturally.
Im not a therapsit, or staff, these are my experiences. I never met anyone who was really good theres many times i only sought after looks not saying its bad but many times looks were deciving. If youre not read for a relationship, work on yourself and heal from wounds and truama its best to heal then to let someone else also carry your luggage (baggage) that weighs on your shoulder. Just have to take on thome memories and hardships and move on from them thats how you heal