Let me tell you right now that hating yourself serves no other purpose than to rob yourself of what good you have both found and created.
I am like you in the sense that I am no stranger to hardship. I too, often suffer depressive episodes, I’m riddled to the core with anxiety, and I have an understanding of agony that would render most others unable to cope with existence as a whole.
But from my agony, I have learned that one must be willing to forgive themselves for their misdeeds, their shortcomings, and the wounds they have inflicted upon another.
You did what you had to do because it’s what you needed to survive. Looking back now, you are ashamed of who you were. But who you were does not equate to who you are now.
You are different now, the proof of that resides in the message you left here for us to read, you can acknowledge your sins, and you wish to atone for the damages caused by bitter action.
I know nothing of you, but what I do know is that the hardest battles we fight come from within, the mind is both our best friend, and our worst enemy. My challenge to you, and to all who would read this, is in suffering find solace in a better future.
You cannot change what happened, the only thing you can do is change tomorrow and what it might bring.
Be brave, meet their disdain and their anger with an understanding that their decisions are their own to make, and if their opinions of you do not serve you for the better, accept their judgement and move on. Now is the only time for you to stand on your own two feet, to make good on promises made to both self and other, and show the world around you that you are made of something far stronger than wood or steel, and that even through the darkest of times, you will yet persist.
Forgive yourself for your transgressions, and move forward with the determination to make sure they don’t happen again.
Let go of your past, do not allow it to hold power over you any longer. Believe in yourself enough to allow your real strength to shine through. Go forth into the great unknown with higher Hope’s for yourself, and do not let the opinions of others have power over your own identification of self.
You are who you want to be; and we forge our own fates.
So take back what’s yours. Forgive yourself. Forgive everyone who ever hurt you and let you down. Choose to love the pain, choose to love all those horrible experiences, and accept them for what are to you. You are okay. you are going to be okay. Deep down you know you owe yourself that at the very least.
Please do not give up or give in. If not for yourself, then do it for me. I know your pain, I know you are strong enough to choose to live. I know you can endure.