I don’t really know what to say. I’m not happy with the results but I’m not gonna bitch about them like Republicans did last voting year. Can’t wait to have less rights! Sounds fucking awesome. Especially with having to go to a deep red state high school. I have never been more grateful that i didn’t come out since if i did i would be the ass of all jokes and probably bullying. It hasn’t even been a day but the suicide rate have skyrocketed and I’m so fucking heartbroken over it. All of these pointless deaths because of that fucker being who he is. I don’t want to live here anymore. I’ve said it before but i mean it more now than ever. I’m going to go insane if i have to live here anymore and i want to yell buy i know what my dad would probably do. Beat the hell out of me. Send me to a conversion camp. Probably the whole nine miles because that’s just who he is. A bigot that voted against his wife and daughters having rights that would hate me if i came out about my gender struggles and/or being bisexual. What are yalls plans if you have any because i don’t know what to do. I hope i never have to see that man more than needed.
Hey friend.
I apologize for the delay in response here. I had to take yesterday to step away from everything. In that way, I want to start by saying that what you’re feeling is valid and based on what I’ve seen and heard, is echoed amongst so many people across the nation.
In your post, you mention being grateful for not coming out regarding your gender struggles and being bisexual, primarily afraid of what happens to you if you do come out. Especially under the impending presidency. And under the roof of your father. You mention living in a state that voted red, which means you fear losing rights. And you don’t know what to do.
As a straight white man married to a bi-woman, I won’t pretend that I know what you’re going through. I can only empathize from a place of wanting to protect her and my daughter. I can only empathize through what I’ve learned from the experiences of my queer friends. And I’m so so sorry.
I imagine that seeing the majority of the country vote against your best interest, your safety, feels like the highest form of betrayal. And where does one go from there?
I’m still processing a lot of things. I want to give in to hopelessness. I want to give in to nihilism. To say that it’s all burning and will burn and at least then, in the ashes, there is some quiet.
But then I can’t help but to think, if those of us capable of fighting, leave - if we move to another country or opt out of existence - who is left to fight back? Who is left to speak up? Who is left to defend the defenseless? To make progress. To reverse this nightmare.
I’m truly not sure if it can be reversed. And it’s a point of privilege to say “stay and fight” when real harm and danger can befall you for doing so. Growing up in the middle of cornfield Missouri, I can understand that, at least.
I can’t give advice so far as plans. I have co-parent my daughter so just scooping her up and fleeing isn’t something necessarily viable. But having passports handy is where we are starting. In the event that we need to go.
We’re also looking into where the safest pockets of the country are - luckily we’re in one now.
Aside from that, we’re watching local races. New York just solidified a woman’s right to choose - small victories on local levels give me some semblence of hope when the sky is blackening.
I know this maybe wasn’t the most helpful or actionable response. But, I want you to primarily know that you’re not alone. You aren’t fighting alone. It may feel that way, physically. It may be that way, physically.
But you’re not alone.
We love you, friend. And we stand by you. Hold fast, and feel free to post here as much as you need.