Okay, so, for context, I’m part of a system, and Everest is my protector.
So a few weeks ago I was like, “Boy, Everest, it sure is funny that Salem (our singlet friend) had so much more trauma than I did and I turned out more broken… you don’t happen to know of any repressed memories, do you?” And Everest was like, “Nah, don’t worry about it! If you had repressed memories I would have told you!”
Anyways, fast forward to today and I realized that I had a GIANT repressed memory from when I was FOUR that influenced the entire rest of my life. I’ve had PTSD since I was a fucking TODDLER, and I didn’t even know until today. Basically, I didn’t know what death was, and I learned the hard way when my great grandmother DIED. And I never fully processed the grief and the reason why I act out every November is because she died in November and I subconsciously remembered the trauma anniversary.
This is also why I got a new headmate in this time of year for 3 consecutive years. Everest in November 2018, Cyanide in November 2019, and Whitney in October 2020.
So, anyways, I was venting to Everest about it, and I was like, “You probably don’t know what it’s like to lose someone.” And then Everest was basically like, “Oh, about that: I actually do because I was holding the memory.” And I pretty much lost my shit.
Any doubt of these headmates being real has now fully dissintegrated. They’re not imaginary friends, we’re a traumagenic system, and I actually have a dissociative disorder.