Hi everyone,
My mom and I tried to convince my sister to go to therapy. A few days ago my sister decided to seek help from a mental health professional. My sister is finally recognizing her behavior affecting the whole family. I talked with my therapist and noticed that my sister might be narcissist just like my father.
Today, my mom and I talked about the divorce. She noticed the family is toxic & falling apart. My mother wanted to get divorce after I finished graduate school within three years. She also wants to move out a different state in which I totally agree with her. We decided to start over a new life. My mother and I noticed that Florida is getting more expensive to live like the car & house insurance. We can’t afford to live Florida in the future. I feel like they are trying to get rid of Floridians that lived in that state for several years. My mom was super supportive to tell me choose a state to move at.
My grandmother loves her 3 grandchildren (toastsister, toastaintbad, & toastoldest grandchild) but none of them support & love her like I do. She wanted my younger sister to move with us together in which I totally disagreed. It’s sad because my grandmother has a toxic relationship with my sister. She thinks it’s okay to live with her. My sister was physical abusive with my grandmother and cusses at her for several years. Today, I told her that I’m the only grandchild that helps her. I gave her my old phone & tablet (super good condition) to her. She understands it now. My sister wants to live in New York or California after my parent’s divorce. You can’t force someone to live with you if they don’t like the environment.
My dad will always live Florida for the rest of his life due to his brothers and sisters. I totally understand from his perspective. It’s his choice and there is nothing I can do about. He has a ton of friends that he can live with. There is one thing that my father told me to do if he dies. I will support and pay for his funeral even he wasn’t good father in my life. No one in the family understands him except me. My mom told me to not talk with my father. I will still call him secretly once a year to check on him.
The new job I worked at is fun & friendly but I can’t live work with them for a long time. My happiness matters the most than a job. I loved Florida but it’s time for me to go.