This post is just a really long update
Firstly, my friendship has been going surprisingly well. It’s like my attachment and separation anxiety never existed. I’m comfortable in not talking for a while but when we talk again, it’s just all good!
They reassure me without even asking, like they could read my mind in a way. We lift each other up and I can finally be comfortable just talking about whatever. I CAN SEND DOUBLE QUADRUPLE PARAGRAPHS IN A ROW AND SHE’LL STILL READ THEM AND RESPOND when she has time of course.
We’ve both been really busy, but the bond is growing. I feel like I can trust again.
Today I went to restaurant before my highschool graduation ceremony tomorrow. So many of my many family members were there and they all bought me cards and flowers. I got like 5 bouquets of flowers hahaha
My aunt’s husband got a custom made cake for me. I told them I wanted to get into forensics and the picture will be attached to this posts so you can see it!!! (TW BlOOD!!) Just in case, even though its fake
My mother is very critical about what I like and what I want to be. She hated stuff thay had to deal with death and she actually made me believe that no one else would supporr me on this. But they saw they cake and everyone was so happy for me.
And I love my mom but she’s had me all anxious and self conscious for no reason. I get scared that people will judge me because of something because my mom is the one telling me I should be ashamed of it.
I keep reminding her not to project on to me her likes and dislikes because I’m not a pet or a cloning projection gone wrong. I’m a human with different thoughts and feelings.
But on the bright side, she started being a little more accepting. Somehow I still have grudges against her. She really hurt me emotionally in childhood and I know I’ll never be able to get that back or fix things that already happened but that still bothers me. But I have to move on probably…
Anyways the last thing I wanted to mention was that I’m really nervous about my graduation ceremony and I know I should feel free but this freedom scares me.
I didn’t have enough time to integrate the child part of me into my adult self cause of trauma. I’m fragmented and I often switch between the two states being. I just don’t feel ready to be a functioning adult yet despite wanting to be. Sometimes I feel like a fraud and it makes me frustrated
Life is beautiful but also very scary…!