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View media here: heartsupport on Instagram: "When we care about someone and really want a relationship to work we often fight to “make the pieces fit”. We will rationalize, explain, say things like “if they just did x”, or “if only this didn’t happen”, all of this is in the name of maintaining or creating a connection. We will often try to convince others (and ourselves) that this relationship is possible, when the truth is our controlling and striving is actually furthering disconnection and deepening heartbreak. Letting go, and giving up on making the pieces fit, is one of the most challenging things we will do in our lives, but it’s a gift, because if these pieces don’t fit and we allow them to fall apart then we are free to find the pieces that DO fit. Are you struggling in a relationship right now? Are you trying to make something work and you just can’t seem to get there? Share in the comments by tagging @heartsupport and we’ll provide encouragement. #tool #therapist #schism"

When we care about someone and really want a relationship to work we often fight to “make the pieces fit”. We will rationalize, explain, say things like “if they just did x”, or “if only this didn’t happen”, all of this is in the name of maintaining or creating a connection.

We will often try to convince others (and ourselves) that this relationship is possible, when the truth is our controlling and striving is actually furthering disconnection and deepening heartbreak.

Letting go, and giving up on making the pieces fit, is one of the most challenging things we will do in our lives, but it’s a gift, because if these pieces don’t fit and we allow them to fall apart then we are free to find the pieces that DO fit.

Are you struggling in a relationship right now? Are you trying to make something work and you just can’t seem to get there? Share in the comments by tagging @heartsupport and we’ll provide encouragement.

Tool #therapist #schism

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This is absolutely relatable. When love is a factor, it can be so difficult to see past the shortcomings/difficulties between two partners.

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Cognitive distortion.====