I have really been struggling this week. It has been a fine week and nothing has been bad, only a couple good things. I just came back from a really fun skateboarding trip to Kansas City. I feel so lonely though. It is kinda all my mind thinks about. I want to make more friends and find more support in person. I am shy and don’t like to reach out or ask people things. I know I need to work on that. I am working on being better. I want to share more, but this is a good start.
Positive Vibes,
Working at being better!
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I am at Starbucks right now. I am really cheap, but I have been trying to really focus on my health. I know Starbucks doesn’t sound super healthy, but I come to socialize. I also don’t drink coffee. I get a yogurt and granola and a large water for $5, or if I am feeling fancy (and they have it), I go for a protein box. I don’t eat the healthiest. So I am working at putting better fuel in my body.
I am trying to drink more water and stay hydrated,
I do get pretty good sleep sometimes. Sometimes I stay up too late.
I really want a girlfriend or more friends. Positive suggestions and encouragements would help me. I am so shy.
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Hi @AugustBurnsBright
I just wanted to say I am very impressed with all the steps you have made and are making.
Like focusing on healthy eating and staying hydrated, going to Starbucks to socialize, sleeping well and even going on a skateboarding trip!
Not sure if I really have tips on how to find friends. I am shy too and know it can be hard. It might help to seek out places where you can meet people that have the same interests and hobbies as you. You write you went on a skateboarding trip, maybe there are groups for that in your area? Or find people that like the same music as you and go to a concert with them or hang out at a festival.
I volunteered once at a festival and 10 years later I am still in contact with one of the other volunteers. It brings people together without pressure.
I hope this helps a bit, remember that you matter!
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Hey @AugustBurnsBright!
I’ve been down that road you have, friend. I used to be SUPER shy, But at events, like whether it be concerts, sports, or especially pro wrestling, it was easier for me to talk to people because we know the people we talk to already have something in common! There’s been so many conversations I’ve started just by pointing out something small, like if I was at wrestling show I’d be like “oh man Thea Hail is so awesome! Did you see her match against Roxanne last week?” and it would just go from there. Or if I was at a concert, I’d see someone with a shirt of a band I love and I’d be like “fuck yeah, I LOVE THAT BAND!” and another convo would strike from there. I learned over the years that the more you do that, the less shy you get. Takes a lot of time and practice, but SO worth it!
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@AugustBurnsBright
That is a great start dont feel bad, that who you are. You have no worries your personality as you get older it builts your character.
As long you find yourself around other youll find a way to build a conversation ask anything, even how are you doing, how the person learned skateboarding things like that.
Once upon a time i was shy and barely speak to other’s. As i got older i had develope courage to speak, being outgoing, and had a voice to speak to others as well.
So dont worry youll get there.
God bless
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Thank you, I am really struggling with finding appropriate relationships. I have some unhealthy habits and relationships and I want to have healthier friends and relationships. My friends at the skatepark don’t have jobs and do meth. they are not my friends and I don’t want to be there acquantances. It is hard. I feel like I don’t really have any friends. I listen to music and youtube and pretend those people are my friends. I have been going to 1 church by my house. I am Lutheran but it is a different type of Lutheran. I have made no friends. I hate the church people who are so judgement and just have sticks up there ass. I have also been trying a new church, it is Ladder day Saint and I feel like I am joining a cult. the old people there are even worse. there complain that all these young people are vaping. like vaping is fucking harmless. I don’t know. I have really been struggling these last 2 weeks and have been turning to alcohol and smoking. I am trying but it is so fucking hard. I just want some friends who will have my back and help me. I don’t know, but I am going to keep trying. God is good all the Time, the devil also works overtime, sorry I like to joke and sometimes people take it the wrong way.
Thanks Brother,
I really want to go to a wrestling event. I watched it all the time growing up. I worked as a semi truck driver until i lost my job and license becasue of some bullshit. I live in Nebraska. I don’t know if wrestling ever comes here. I want to check that out. that was a cool idea and got my excited. I struggle with being appropiate in public spaces. also i have to make sure i don’t drink too much and get drunk or piss someone off.
I do stil feel bad and that is what sucks. Heart support is telling me not to do so many small repies. ahhhhh
There’s wrestling EVERYWHERE, which is awesome. depending on your area there’s independent shows which are a ton of fun, and are usually really cheap too like 10 bucks sometimes. Plus you never know if you’re gonna see someone that’s gonna be on TV or get signed!
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Thank you, I have trying to be better. I have started to heavily drink again, but drinking isn’t my problem. I know that sounds interesting. Drinking is bad but I feel like it is a needed coping mechanism right now. I have not used any illegal hard substances or been around anyone who uses them. I have a lot of dirdbag friends that I am trying to stay away from. I really want to get back around the heavy music scene in my area and around, but that is not a healthy enviroment for me right now. I have been healthy. I am going to a bar now really frequently. I try not to order beer. My order is a snickers bar and a wood tip black and mild. i really enjoy the ritual and routine. then I head over to the bar side. if i am strong i will just order a sprite, but i have now been getting their $2 beers. this could be trouble, but now i can stop after 2. Anyway they have a really cool atomosphere and smoking side. They have jeopardy or a really cool show on the tv. the bar tender women are dicks. straight up. i have started to talk and try make some friends. it is going well. on the other side that is non smoking they have a super old wrestling video game. I play with Sgt Slaughter. Royal Rumble style. I have yet to beat it. working on it.
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I have really been struggling this last month. I have started to use snapchat more, which I am not saying snapchat is healthy but here is what I have been doing. I really don’t care or like my personal outside apprearance. I have personal problems and always think i am not good enough. So i hate pictures and they are really hard. It has been hard, but I don’t have any friends on snapchat so I am not sending them to anybody or trying to do whatever. I like taking selfies and then saving them. I kinda use this as a mirror over time. I want to look good and I want to look healthy. It is helpful to me to see that i have been excercsising, showing, eating healthy, and sleeping. It is not a perfect system and it has some flaws, but i am working on getting better.
I really, really, really liked what you said about just getting a little better. I don’t notice little things at all, but if for 30 days you keep doing the little things right, it can really make a difference in 30, 60 90 days.
I had a really gnarly experience like 800 days ago. I was arrested, charged with multiple really gnarly things. Sent straight to the hospital, forcibly sedated, then put on a 72 hour medical hold for like 3 of them thangs back to back to back. I have slowly slowly slowly been working on i say happy and healthy… it has been a really slow process and i don’t feel any different. people say i look different or healthier, but i feel like the fucking exact same person. i am honestly starting to cry right now. I am in a healthy place. I am starting to look at getting my own little apartment. I previiosy lost my house because of my mental healthy challenges. I live in my parents basement and it is so fucking sad and depressing, but it is also a healthy and safe place for me. I want to step back out, but i am also sacared as fuck at how quick shit can hit the fan. I want to keep making those little steps that i don’
t even notice.
As i am crying I remember it isn’t easy. past trauma is a bitch to relive. i don’t like looking back and am afraid to. I will go for a little walk and drink some gatorade. sports drinks are my favorite, butter than some mountain dew. even tho i love thos enew crazy flavors.
keep calm and keep rocking on. it isn’t easy. keep going. we can do it.
I am working on being better
eating, sleeping, hygeiene, excercise, social, mental, emotional, reading, friends.
1 day at a time
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That’s all we can do, my dude.
We take things 1 day at a time and see where the road takes us. Over time, we gain more control of the path.
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It sounds like you’re making some really good progress. Sometimes we can overlook our successes and focus on where we still need to improve. I’m guilty of this myself. IDK if this will help, but recently a crisis person suggested when I fall into being critical to try and remind myself of the positive changes I’ve implemented, even if they seem small or like the kind of things “everyone should be doing.”
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I am doing better. But this week has been fucking brutal. I have for four years been a real estaye agent. I just decided that i am no longer foing to continue wirh that. It is goinf to save me money time and mental health. I have less rhings on my plate. I can work on my art more. I feel so loenly and wishing for a relationship i make bad devisions. I think i am foing to 3b alone forber. It sucks but i want to meet new friends. I am rrying it sucks. I have been trying to take my ohysical health seriously. I am drinking again, but not smoking. I call it medicine and a coping mechanism.
I am beig faoe positive qnd forcing it. But it fucking sucks. I am hurting. 1 day at a time enjoy th3 good moments. There is so much good. Inwant to help others to take away from beung depressed.
Watching the new furiousa movie and jt is brutal. Too much. It could be worse. She lost her arm. I am jist depressed.
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I have had a really strange month. I told my brother in law a very embarrassing secret. I wish i had not told him. I told him i might be gay. It did not go well. He is married to my sister and i dont want him to think less of me. I am so frustrated. The conversation was not supposed to go where it did. But it did. I then told him thaat i am the happeist o have ever been. I really di feel that. So thay is good. I do feel great. Thae being said i have had a really hard week. I feel good. Hard times will come. I hope i can continie with this community. I want to help more people and enjoy life. Life goes on.