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10 years together and married last year. Went for coffee one morning never came home. Been pretty much ignored since canât get my head around it all
Thatâs absolutely devastating and Iâm sorry this happened to you. Feeling abandoned while left asking âwhy?â is not an easy situation to process. I can only imagine how you must feel.
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Hey friend, thank you so much for sharing about such a heartbeaking and significant loss with us here. Man, the brutality of it all⌠separation is one painful experience to walk through, but on top of it the circumstances surrounding the way your partner left are so brutal and unfair. After so many years together you would not expect for that kind of thing to happen. You build projects and focus on your future. Nothing could really prepare you for that kind of loss and the silence youâre just left with afterwards.
Iâm truly sorry that youâve been through this, friend. Being somewhat ghosted like this is so painful. It leaves you with so many questions and no answer to fill the blanks. Itâs almost as if the possibility to feel a sense of closure is stolen away from you, and youâre left being forced to deal with their absence without real meaning behind it. At least, when there is an answer to the question âwhyâ, it helps the mind to process and walk through the pain of loss in a different manner. But when there is no understanding of what happened, it feels like being imprisoned in a place of pain and injustice. That feeling of being ignored after sharing significants parts of your life together must make it much harder to process. Makes you leave feeling as none of what youâve shared together mattered - almost as if you didnât matter. Which of course isnât true, but itâs how it feels.
It makes sense to have a hard time getting your head around what happened. And I hope that, in the midst of this hurt and confusion, you manage to be very kind and patient with yourself. Itâs understandable and valid to feel lost, confused, sad, angry, all at once. Youâre experiencing something that creates questions that keep looping around with no answers, which is so hard to accept.
I just want you to know that whenever you need to talk, vent, or just let some of it out, we are here for that. It might take time to make sense of any of this, but youâre not on your own in feeling it. It freaking hurts and itâs unfair - although you are not alone, friend. Thank you so much for sharing your pain and your voice with us. 
@kingsleydutton we are with you and so is she