If I’m not natural born then what am I? Some freak of nature? I know I shouldn’t appeal to the cis but I have to say this hurts badly, it really does. Because I’m not “real” I’m nothing natural, I’m just some sort of amalgamation tranny who isn’t real. Existing.
Nature vs Culture is an old, old debate that always comes back whenever people disagree about a social movement, or a new law about social rights, or whatever. In my humble opinion, there are several problems when people favor biology as a justification to say what’s “natural” or not: 1/ They believe that what’s “natural” is easy to identify while it’s not; 2/ It’s often the product of a religious belief which precepts are not understood through the lens of our societies now; 3/ They voluntarily ignore all the things that belong to our culture, and a culture is constantly changing; 4/ They forget that “nature” is already a cultural concept/idea.
What does it even mean to be “natural”? We’re social animals. We use language, labels and words that are meaningful to us, depending on where we live. It’s not all about biology. It’s also about social context, culture, circumstantial meaning and understanding.
You don’t need to use those people’s perceptions and arguments against yourself, friend. They can be attracted to whoever they want, just like you have the right to be who you want to be.
You’re very real, alive, existing. And I understand that it’s important, as human beings, to find a way to name our own identity. But it starts deep inside with how we feel. And how you feel in your heart is not a lie. If some people reject that, it’s only because it doesn’t match with their own perceptions or beliefs, which doesn’t mean that you’d be wrong for being who you are. It’s not because people always had a hard time to understand each other that we have to stop being true to ourselves. That would be the most destructive and saddest conclusion.
You’re not a freak. You’re not a mistake. If those labels hurt right now, then maybe it would be good to step away from it a little, just to give your heart the time to feel a little better and focus on how you feel, first and foremost. The quest for our own identity can be really exhausting sometimes, especially when some things that are happening in our society make us feel rejected one way or another. Sadly, there will always be people who favor judgment and hatred, because it’s their way to defend what makes sense to them.
Silly example, but I was looking at birds yesterday during a walk and I thought that I didn’t know the name of one of them, which made me sad. I always wanted to learn all the scientific names so I could identify them. But then I thought: do I really need to know its name to actually enjoy its absolute beauty and uniqueness? Absolutely not. And actually, it adds a bit of poetic mystery to it.
Replacing judgment by curiosity is the most beautiful gift you can give to yourself. You don’t need to internalize those people’s perception. It doesn’t belong to you.
You’re beautiful as you are, friend. You belong here. I’m sending hugs your way. 
PS - 4chan is a tumultuous online place, especially when it’s about gender identity or equality between genders. I wouldn’t take what’s happening there as a reference. Of course, somehow it’s the reflection of what some people think nowadays, but 4chan is a particular environment, and I think it’s important not to forget that too.
